how do you find time to write?
Tuesday, 03 June 2008

At least six people a day (give or take three or four) ask me this question. It's taken me awhile, but I've come up with a really great answer. "Um...I'm not sure really." And I'm not. I can tell you what I do know. Yes, let's start there.

I do know that I love to write and always have. I do know that it's my passion, my sweet spot, what I was born to do. I do know that reading and writing are two of my most favorite activities in all of life. I do know that if I had a free day to myself to do anything at all--anything at ALL--I would curl up with a pile of books in a bookstore. Then write for awhile. Then read. Then write. Then read some more. And somewhere in there, I'd find something to eat and drink something yummy and coffee-ish.

So, that's part of the answer. Writing is my hobby, what I do for fun. When the kiddos are sleeping and hubby is otherwise occupied, I don't crave TV or scrapbooking or (heaven forbid) housecleaning. I just want to write. And so I do.

I've learned to write in chunks, in snippets, in spurts. I have ideas for books scribbled everywhere--journals, scraps of paper, backs of receipts. And when the house is quiet (and sometimes when it's not), I start pulling pieces together and putting them where I think they should go. I don't write books from beginning to end. Each of my books is a result of (literally) thousands of bits of info sewn together over time.  Lots of filling in the cracks, adding missing parts, smoothing out transitions. Lots of rewriting, cutting, fixing until I'm happy with the result. When I can read something out loud to myself, and it makes me smile (either with satisfaction or because I find it funny), I know it's ready to go.

I'm always praying about (and often stressing over) finding the balance between my family and my writing (and everything else in my life that doesn't fit into one of those two categories). Some days I think I've got it. Some days not. It's definitely a daily discussion between God and me.

I have lots more to say, but my five-year-old is dying for a snack. So, I'll leave you with something I posted today to an online Writer's Group I'm a part of. The thread for this week was--What do you do to recover your creativity after a long writing assignment? (or something like that) It fits here, so I'd like to share it.

As a young-ish mom (32) to three small-ish girls (7, 5, and 2), I can't relate to all this talk of five-day escapes to the beach or secluded mountain cabins. But instead of being envious and wishing my daughters' childhoods away, I can make the most of what I do have right this very moment. And it's a lot.

I can get up at 5:45 a.m. and jog around my neighborhood block five or six times, talking to God and bringing my requests before Him. I can sit and read an inspiring book in my fenced-in backyard while my girls swing and play soccer (I'm really good at finding my place again after my 2-year-old says, "Mommy, look!" every 20 seconds.). I can sit and write between their bedtime and mine--either at my desk or on the couch while watching playoff hockey or cage-fighting (?!?!) with my hubby. I can even write in the mini-van (while my husband drives) during 90-minutes trips to visit family.

Someday (oh, someday!), I'll go to the beach all by myself and luxuriate (is that a word?) in the solitude. But for now, God is faithful to bring me inspiration in continuous spurts in the midst of everyday life. At the grocery store. At the park. On a field trip. Even the McDonald's drive-thru. I don't know that I'll ever have time to write all the books I have ideas for. If that day comes, I'm sure I'll long for the days I'm living now. I don't know that I've ever written for more than three hours at a time. And never at a beach or by a window with a mountain view. But that's okay. God has blessed me with three published books in two years amidst diapers and dishes. Isn't He good?

I've never really had to recover my creativity. Life with little ones is a life immersed in the creative. And I'm finding it a very sweet place to be. Thank you, Jesus. Praise you!

 
so, you wanna write a book...
Thursday, 28 February 2008

"You're a real author? I've always wanted to write a book! How did you get published?"

I can't count how many times I've been asked this. And I've only been a published author (ooooh, big stuff!) for two years. No, not even that. It would seem that roughly 80% of the people I meet have a burning desire to write a book (well, at least have one published. not the same thing). They assume that I have all the answers, that I am the key to their success.

The unfortunate thing is that I really have no idea how to get published. My story is unconventional, and roughly 80% of the time I feel clueless about this whole publishing business. The way I did it (or rather, the way God did it for me) will probably not work for you. Not because you're not fabulous, but because I still don't understand how everything happened the way it did.

But without further ado...

Even if my journey to publication was odd, and telling my story might prove unhelpful, I've decided to share it anyway. Then the next time someone asks me (3 people in the last 2 days) "how I got published," I will simply point them to this blog, and voila! 

On some level, I'm sure I've always dreamed of writing a book. I learned to read early and started writing poems in first grade. I made a card catalog for all my books when I was 10. I wrote stories, letters, lists. I can't remember ever NOT loving to read and write. Loved writing essays and stories in high school, research papers in college.

Did my student teaching on the island of Okinawa (Japan) in 1997. Determined to write a book about my experience. Sent a proposal to one company. "Like your writing, but audience is way too narrow." Decided to self-publish. Went with iUniverse. At the time (2001) it cost me $99 to publish my book. Bought a couple hundred copies at a discount (50-60% maybe), sold them to everyone I knew, made about $3. Okay, a few hundred.

Self-publishing is always an option. But, by most definitions, it doesn't make you a real author. Most people don't know this though, so when they gush over your book, you can just smile (like I did) and not explain what self-publishing really is. You slapped some words together, paid someone to bind it into book form. You're an author!

Back-tracking to 1998. I kept a crazy-detailed journal of married life for several years with plans to make it into some type of marriage "devotional." Over time, it evolved into something entirely different. I plugged away at it, and by 2004 was ready to finally do something with it. Found out about The Writer's Edge Service. For $79 (now $95), you can submit a synopsis (summary) of your book, a couple sample chapters, table of contents, and they'll tell you if it's "good" or not. They "accept" roughly half of what is submitted to them. If you get in, your name and synopsis is added to a list that goes out to 80+ Christian publishers at the end of the month. (This service obviously won't work if your book isn't Christian.) I believe it's only on the list for one month.

I sent my stuff to Writer's Edge in October 2004. My book idea appeared on their December 2004 list. The first week of January, two publishers contacted me via e-mail. One was Harvest House. I honestly can't remember the name of the other. They both wanted to see sample chapters. The gal at Harvest House said, "We rarely accept manuscripts in this manner, but your synopsis intrigued me." (see? unconventional.) I sent both publishers my sample chapters. The first publisher turned me down--"You're too wordy and talk about yourself too much." (this is still true). Harvest House said, "Your writing is like a breath of fresh air! Send us the whole book!"

The book made it to the Publishing Committee (which meant nothing to me until my contact at HH told me it was huge). They accepted it, offered me an advance. From Blushing Bride to Wedded Wife was released in March 2006. They asked what I wanted to write next. I gave them five options. They said, "we want you to do the sex one." Is That All He Thinks About? released in January 2007. I told them I wanted to write about in-laws next. The Publishing Committee said in-law books don't sell. A friend suggested I call an agent friend of hers. He said the same thing but had other ideas for me. I signed with Bill Jensen in August 2007 (a little bit backward, since most people find an agent before they get published.)

Thanks to Bilbo, I'm no longer clueless. He shops my proposals around to publishers, negotiates my contracts (gets me bigger advances and more free copies and bigger royalty percentages), and gives me loads of encouragement--all for a very-reasonable 15%. He came up with the (brilliant) title of my newest release, Changing Your World One Diaper at a Time, and he's the one who suggested I try a gift book. (Expectant Prayers releases with Howard Books in January 2009.)

I have lots more ideas, and when I get a proposal ready, Bill will look it over and take it from there. He makes it painless for me.

Soooo...I haven't really answered any of your questions, have I? You now know the long version of my story and still aren't any closer to publishing your own stuff. Never fear! I have 2 great links for you to check out. One is Mary DeMuth's blog called Wanna Be Published ? She's a published author and gives out fabulous free advice. The other one is Rachelle Gardner's blog, Rants and Ramblings. She's a literary agent, and again, offers fabulous free advice for aspiring writers. These two women will explain how to find an agent, submit your work to him/her, and all that other important stuff.

Go read their blogs. If you have questions, feel free to e-mail me. I'm living my dream, and if you want it bad enough, you can too.

 
all kinds of fun!
Tuesday, 19 February 2008

Well, goodness. I just have a bundle of updates. First of all--I got my copy of Changing Your World One Diaper at a Time on my doorstep Thursday morning. Woohoo! (no use pretending to be calm and collected) I do love seeing a new book for the first time! Hubby was out of town, so I read snippets during the day and then gobbled the rest of it up after the girls were in bed. Good news--I like it. A lot. It's just as fun as I hoped it would be, and I think you all will reaaaaally enjoy the read.

Other good news? It's releasing this week! I don't have to wait until March 1st. Three cases of books are en route from Oregon to Ohio as I type. They could be here as early as tomorrow. For the next few days, I'll be busy fulfilling pre-orders and sending out all the free copies I promised to my wonderful survey-takers. I can't wait for all of them to see their names in print.

Want a sneak peek? Harvest House has a PDF of the first chapter on their website. Click here to read it.  

I'm busy compiling a list of 50 "influential people" to review the book. The publisher sends them a free book and review packet with the hopes that they'll like it and say nice things about it to their friends. If you know of any "influencers" or you consider yourself one, shoot me an e-mail through the contact form on the site.

I was just on Amazon and saw that my pregnancy gift book is already listed! Its title is Expectant Prayers: Praying for Your Child's Development--Body and Soul. The first two words are the title, the rest are the subtitle. I finally got a short title! And the book releases in January of '09 instead of March. All these early releases--how delightful!

Next week I'll post a special offer for a free book--stay tuned! 

 
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